This results in an overwhelming feeling of guilt. Tori begins thinking and feeling that she’s not doing enough, or wasn’t meant to be a parent, she even begins to resent her job and everything else that requires her time. After all, her time is meant for her beloved child. Tori attempts to dismiss all her thoughts and feelings about not being able to meet her needs of nurturing a deep and loving connection with her child, and chooses to accept that “this is just how things have to be”. But what about knowing and setting your personal boundaries?
Acceptance of “the truth” is always a great idea, however, more importantly, in terms of “self-love”, identifying and abiding by what is true for us rather than what others dictate as the truth may work out better for us in the long run.
In other words, dismissing our own thoughts and feelings for the feelings and opinions of others is an act of self-neglect.
