How do we get to this point?
In our scenario, when Tori decided to relax, she remained “present” in the moment by “observing” herself, and “providing for herself” what she needed. She allowed her body to do what it naturally does, which is to feel. This led to the release of negative energy from her body and eventually her attaining a sense of inner peace. She may not have been aware of what she was doing for herself at the time, but she was engaging in what is known as “self-love”.
Merriam Webster defines “self-love” as proper regard for and attention to one’s own happiness or well-being.
Now, if it’s so simple to “love yourself”, why do women neglect themselves, especially when caring for others?
There are many individual “mindsets” that may lead to “self-neglect” For instance, some women may have been conditioned to believe that their value comes from what they do for others, whereas some others may have been conditioned to believe that she is “selfish” for wanting to do anything for herself. Some even believe that they must play the role of the “strong one” for the benefit of others.
Many years ago, the woman in our scenario made a promise to herself that she would be a present parent. She planned on accomplishing this by working to create as many memories with her child as she could, however, long hours at work get in the way of Tori accomplishing those goals. Chantelle, her daughter spends most of her day at daycare, by the time Tori and her daughter arrive home, they have about 2 hours before the young one’s bedtime. During those two hours, Tori must prepare a meal while her Chantelle prepares for dinner and bed. This does not allow for much time together.
